Friday, February 29, 2008
The Worst...
Wednesday, February 27, 2008
Hike for Discovery Fashion Show
Our Marine...
My nephew Matt Quijas is in town from the Marines. Matt and I had lunch today and then we headed to CMH to deliver lunch to Kaylee and Tammie. Matt stayed at our house when we were first diagnosed with leukemia in June. Since we were in Columbia and Matt was on leave it worked out perfectly. Matt is such a great young man. He recently turned 22 yr. old. He was a savior for our pets when we were stranded in Columbia.
I was so scared to leave Columbia when we first got diagnosed. I was ready to move there because I didn't know any better. When we were there, we were the only kid with cancer in the hospital. That should have told us something. Well I won't keep you any longer but I thought I would let you know how we are doing.
Monday, February 25, 2008
Kerry Full of Life and Faith
Joe Arce and Debra Decoster
Wednesday, February 20, 2008
All Good...
We are getting close to our final stage of this weekly chemo visit. Real soon we will take our medicine at home and go monthly to check for any flare up. I hope we move throught this quickly. I can't wait til Kaylee gets her weight, her routine, and her life back.
Kaylee and Chemo
I was looking a pictures from my birthday last year and thought how healthy we all looked. This year will be different because it seems a new life has started for us. Post cancer days. We were at Houston's on the Plaza last year and the dinner included my family, my sister's, and my sister Kim and Nick Vega. We did one last photo before we left the table and it was a good one. Everyone was surrounding me and it looked like they were there for me. All the kids had their arms around my shoulders. This picture means so much because it reminds me of one of those pictures you'll look at in the future and go "wow, that was a long time ago." The kids look young and us parents look like - parents. Pictures are great.
If anyone knows their school nurse and would like to inform them about a seminar the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society is putting together that educates them on the signs of cancer, the methods of handling such incidents, and the effects of having kids going through treatment, feel free to pass the number along. The person in charge is Micka and she can be reached at 913.262.1515 and those who attend get educational credits. More importantly it is so comforting to know that there is someone at your school who might be able to look past what most of us would think is just the flu and catch something like leukemia or any other cancer. Please consider passing the info, another set of eyes and any education that might help our children is big in my book!
Monday, February 18, 2008
Break the Darkness...
Today was an OK day. I stayed up too late last night and getting up this morning was a challenge of sorts. If I see Kaylee's light on then I stay up later. I never want Kaylee to fight the night alone. Kaylee has been sleeping longer and getting up later. Such a change from a week or so ago. I feel better knowing that Kaylee has one of us up to keep her company if she needs it. Night time can be a lonely time. Night time is a little more fun when your Dad is Michael Quijas and he resides in a room just a few steps from your door. I will go for the late night food run. Coffee if you can handle it. Hell, I've been known to take a late night cruise just to break the darkness!
Sunday, February 17, 2008
Bigger things to worry about...
I was thinking about how certain things or circumstances don't really get me upset as they once did. I sit here ready to give examples and I can't think of any. Lets just say that there's almost nothing that can upset me. As long as it doesn't threaten me, I'm fine. Something about this sickness.
Since we started this recovery process I'm convinced that there are so many other things in life to get worked up over. Bad news, tragedy, and disppointment might be a few but petty issues aren't going to cloud my days. I choose to focus on good things. If something doesn't pose a danger or a need for immediate action then I pass these days on any kind of conflict. This makes me feel like I've grown as a person. Who would think that something like sickness could make you grow as human. It has opened my eyes to for the better.
I went to a Bone Marrow Drive this morning. The drive was for Kerry Magana. She is fourteen and battling leukemia like Kaylee. Just like Kaylee, she has A.L.L.. Kerry relapsed and needs a marrow transplant. I battled the weather and made it down for the drive. I was connected to the event by circumstances of health. If that doesn't make sense or the wording was wrong, I was also connected by my mild participation in promoting this important event. I received the info for the drive and had Kerry on the Hispanic radio on Friday, in the Hispanic News Daily Newspaper this last week and posted in charitable organizations across town. I felt compelled to help in one way or another. I feel her family's pain.
So what did you today? Well I hope you stay happy and conflict keeps away. If you need to find clarity in your life then look for good things even if it means sifting through things you think are bad. I would recommend that you stay from the events that guided me to see things different. But if heartbreak and saddness does appear I suggest you take whatever good you can find and try to do something great with it. Treat your family well and try to contribute to your community. You might make a difference.
Saturday, February 16, 2008
Too little too late...
I was so upset that I didn't give him my card, my number, or I didn't purchase his items. I was shocked for a moment, a moment too long because this person walked out the door. When it dawned on me that I didn't say the appropriate thank you it was too late. I was so mad at my self.
I could not believe that someone could do something so nice. I hope he is blessed with incredible Karma from yesterday on. This act of kindness was meaningful to me for several reasons. I felt blessed for moment that someone would do such a nice thing for me. It showed me that there is good out there. It was an example of good vs. bad decisions. It was an example of doing the right thing without being obligated to do the right thing. It was deeper for me than it might have been before our sickness.
If someone drops their money give it to them. If you need to tell someone thank you, do it before its too late. If you do good today then it will come back to you tomorrow. Good night!
Thursday, February 14, 2008
I have to get home...
I mentioned before that Tammie has always said be careful when I go out and it never registered. Well it does these days, and I intend to make it home. It is scary that someone could come in your place of work and harm you. Thinking about that angers me. Our life is challenging right now with two of us juggling appointments, admissions, and care. I think how hard it would be for one parent if you had to do it alone. Today I look at all angles. The bottom line is I have to get home every day and no one is going to stop me!
Wednesday, February 13, 2008
Spinal Tap...
I went to bed at 3:30 am and woke up at 6:30, I am tired. We got Christian on the bus at 7:00 and we headed here. I am meeting a restaurant/bar called Charlie Hoopers today. They want me to install my TV's. I kind of like packaging the Brooksider with something else in Brookside. We only have the Plaza to work with the Brookside location. I am busy trying to get the Power & Light District lined up and installed. We are busy installing and building.
Tuesday, February 12, 2008
Anyone Reading My Words...
We keep progressing forward and it feels good to be done with this and that but I wish we could fast forward and get it over with. Cancer be gone! Say a prayer for my kid if you would. I keep hoping that my child can get back to normal. I've said it is difficult a million times and another million still couldn't convey the feeling of wanting to get this disease, this word, and this moment gone with. Imagine thinking how you would cope daily if you saw your child getting sick, losing their hair, and crying from pain. Throw in that friends aren't coming around to visit as they once did. On a lighter side, imagine your kid not needing new school clothes or supplies for an entire year because they have no immune system or strong legs to get them to their classes or through the day. My heart breaks thinking that anyone I know or any one reading my words would be put through that. It is a tough time for me and my family these days but we will be back to normal. Goodnight!
Monday, February 11, 2008
Did You See The Paper Today?
http://www.kansascity.com/business/emerging/story/485477.html
Owners: Michael Quijas and Zach Lund
Owners’ roles: “My responsibilities have me overseeing new construction, sales and research and development,” Quijas said. “Zach helps facilitate a smooth-running back office, takes care of the financials of the company and helps plan the strategy.”
How long did it take you to start your business:
“I started my business in April 2005. It was called In Ad Advertising. My business was putting plastic billboards on grocery carts. I sat for weeks waiting for the green light from a grocery store chain. My downtime felt like an eternity. So I started exploring new ideas and came up with the TV idea. I shifted gears (that fall) and put the grocery cart project on the back burner.
“I realized that restaurant owners were more likely to let me install digital screens in their restrooms compared to the old worn-out poster boards that indoor billboard companies commonly use. I found a new business off the old business. Fuel American Made Bar & Grill and Raoul’s Velvet Room at 119th and Metcalf (in Overland Park) were the first two restaurants to participate.”
How did you come up with this idea?
“I was involved in the indoor advertising industry in San Diego. This is where a company puts a sign on the back of a restroom stall door or above the urinals.
“When I was at Best Buy one afternoon, I was observing all the TVs on display when something hit me. The screens all had the same thing playing. This piqued my curiosity. So I asked the clerk how something like this is made possible. The clerk took me to the video switch and showed me how it all worked. That was the afternoon that my wheels started turning.”
What challenges have you faced?
“The sacrifice my family made for this dream was substantial. We couldn’t always afford to do the things that other families were doing. I’m embarrassed, but my health insurance lapsed more than a couple of times for lack of payment. Two months after re-enrolling, my 14-year-old daughter was diagnosed with leukemia.
“Appointments, sales and deadlines totally got lost. They didn’t matter. But the bills would continue to come. I knew I had to come up with a system that could have me juggle my day shift at Children’s Mercy Hospital with my daughter and somehow include time for business. My wife did nights at CMH, and I took over the days. I set up an office out of CMH. I worked in the room, in the hall, in the cafeteria. This helped me get back into the swing of things without leaving the most important girl in my life alone.”
How did this challenge affect you and your business?
“It has given me great appreciation for people, families and life. I am more aware of the fact that I have no idea what anyone is going through. I don’t know if someone is crashing financially; I don’t know if the guy driving slowly is on his way to sit next to his sick kid. All I know is that business and personal matters do connect. If you are lacking on the business side, it can affect your family. If you are unhappy at home, it can affect your work.”
What advice would you give to someone starting a business?
“Believe in yourself. Take each mistake as a lesson. Remember that the road will curve from time to time, and it can also get bumpy. I have learned that each obstacle or adverse situation has made me grow and has delivered me to where I am.”
Kerri Fivecoat-Campbell, special to The Star
Sunday, February 10, 2008
Appreciated Presence...
I feel needed. I feel wanted. I feel appreciated. I feel important. I feel loved. I feel bad. I feel obligated. I feel dedicated. I feel devoted. I feel scared. I feel humbled. I feel anger. I feel exhausted. I feel loyalty. I feel crazy. I feel loneliness. I feel strong. I feel weak. I feel tired. I feel fat. I feel fear. I feel happiness. I feel sorrow. I feel shocked. I feel emptiness. I feel sick. I feel short-changed. I feel blessed. I feel upset. I feel sorry. I feel ugly. I feel mad. I feel love.
I feel so many emotions for my child who is downstairs crying as I write. I want this to end. No parent should have to watch their child suffer. Giving us a name such as cancer should be enough but this discomfort and uncontrollable pain takes its toll. We hope for a shift in our day soon.
I was driving this afternoon and found myself thinking how important I am to this family. I've had many years to think this but I really never thought about it until now. Each member of my family is important to me but I never really considered my role. Sure I've given thought about my financial contribution and even thought about my role as a father and the example I need to set as a father. The scary fact is, I carry us day to day. Tammie runs our household but I bring the money in. I make sure we have the necessities.
What if something happened to me? Who would carry Kaylee to the restroom? How would she make it to the table to eat? Who would put the food on the table? I know there would be solutions but I get worried. As a young man I questioned if anyone would really miss me if I was gone, today I know how appreciated my presence is. So looking back I may have been confused what my value or worth was as a kid, but today I know how important I am and how much I'm appreciated. Life has a funny way of showing you things. Once where there was uncertainty is now clarity but at what price?
The 5 Minute Blog...
Christian is moaning in his bed because he says it is too early for any one to wake and play baseball. He has a point, but obligations are obligations. I can't believe how cold it is outside. This winter has been extremely cold. I can't wait until the spring and summer season. This time has passed rather quickly. Halloween seems like it was last week, and Christmas was yesterday.
I wish I could tell you that Kaylee is running laps but she isn't. We hope that whatever is in her causing pain leaves soon. We never thought she would have so much trouble as this treatment thing winds down. Kaylee will have to do dosages of steroids and chemo for the next 2 years but at smaller dosages. Hopefully this pain will go back to where ever it came from. Have a good day and enjoy your family.
The Weight of Love...
It makes me feel so good that Kaylee has her dad to do the lifting. It is scary to think what Tammie and Kaylee would do if I was gone or absent. They would make adjustments but being here makes me appreciate those roles again. Tammie has been sleeping with Kaylee and I have been lifting her. ROLES OF A PARENT!
It has been hard mentally the last few days. Kaylee is hurting from the pain and she is bored from the pain. Her only option is laying in bed and it is getting old. We get to the dining room table for breaks but that just isn't enough. She is getting messages from friends that are shopping, buying cars, and leaving for work. Pain on top of pain. But what do you do?
I caught myself looking at children in the grocery store today. I was scanning the little kids thinking how I never thought I would be carrying my fifteen year old girl when she was their age. The fact is that I was oblivious to the fact that anything could go whacky with my child's health. It just couldn't happen to me or mine. But it did!
We will get pass this moment, we will be fine. Bailee Woods came by the house today and it was so nice to see her and watch her move around. She looks so good! The last time we saw her she was in the hospital and barely conscious. Today she came by to see her good friend, Kaylee. When Bailee left she jump in the drivers seat of the car and drove her family down the street. I was so happy the Woods' came by today because I feel so attached to them seeing us go through the same kind of things.
Friday, February 8, 2008
Hot Gravel...
Kaylee has been battling pain for the last few days. We have never encounter pain as bad as this round. It has been happening for 5 days. Her feet feel like she is walking on hot gravel. She can no longer walk and I have to carry her to her destination. We think it is the steroids but we are not sure. She can't sleep because the pain keeps her a wake. She is past crying and moans continously throughout the night. I watch the discomfort every morning.
Tammie has slept with Kaylee for 3 nights. She is helpless and can only watch. Tammie has tried wash rags on the head, heating pads, and rubbing. There is absolutely nothing we can do. Kaylee is so beautiful. She says it hurts her to see us not be able to lend that magic hand. She said she couldn't imagine watching her child suffer like we do. How powerful is that? She said as bad as it is for her, she feels for us. Beautiful, beautiful child.
It is amazing how you become immune to a situation. You have to to survive. I watch this stuff everyday and have learned to walk out the door and start my day. I have to admit that it is hard to concentrate when these tough times hit. I have to face the day and feed this family. So if you see me on the street and I seem distant please forgive me. I might be walking and talking but my mind is with a child who is battling sickness.
Thursday, February 7, 2008
The Tony Day Family Needs Our Help...
FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE
Contact:Philip Graham
westportglass@hotmail.com
913.671.8847
February 7,2008 - Anthony (Tony) Dale Day died tragically on Saturday February 2nd following a brain hemorrhage. Tony Day was a hardworking family man whose untimely death has put his family in a financial crisis. His family could use the help of our community in this time of need, so please visit http://tonydayfamily.googlepages.com/
He is survived by his fiancée Cynthia Walburn, his daughter Ashley, son Mikall, granddaughter Elise, and son-in-law Andrew. Anthony was also a remarkable father to Cynthia’s children Brooke, Shelbee, and Allyssa. He was preceded in death by his sister Kathy but is survived by his sisters Becky and Kelly, brother Andrew, step-sisters Janie and Deanna, step-brother Billy, mother Rosalie, and father Jack. His tremendous heart and compassion were evident in his large extended family. He unselfishly served as a father figure to numerous other children of the Jurczyk family. An alumnus of Willard High School and resident of Independence, Anthony was taken far too soon and will be missed dearly. He chose to be an organ donor and has already helped the lives of others.
The funeral will be held at 1:00 on February 8th at the Day Family Funeral Home of Marshfield. Visitation will be at 12:00 on the same day.
Donations to benefit Cindy and the children can be made at any CU Community Credit Union location or mailed to:
Tony Day Benefit
CU Community Credit Union
1017 E. Republic RoadSpringfield, MO 65807